Living in the moment

Live in the moment.

That is something everyone, usually older people, always tell me. For a long time I never really understood what they meant. I figured they meant to not try and grow up too fast or to not act older then I am.

I didn’t realize they meant not dwelling on the past too.

I am one of those people who can never stop thinking about my past mistakes, friendships, and memories. It is so easy to just let all of my regrets consume me and affect my current life.

It sounds dumb, I know.

But for some reason I can’t seem to stop myself from worrying about the cookie I had 2 days after the fact, I can’t stop worrying about something dumb I said in class years after the fact.

I’ve held myself back to not have these regrets.

I didn’t tell the cute guy who sat next to me in English sophomore year that I liked him, I didn’t tell my ex-best friends that they treated me horribly. I didn’t spread my wings and fly in fear I would crash to the ground.

And sure enough, all these regrets are stopping me from living in the moment

 

How to Deal With Being Single on Valentine´s Day

Happy Valentine´s Day! As someone who has never really been in a relationship, this holiday has always sucked. I normally spend the day drowning myself in homework after school, then spend the rest of the night watching a cheesy romcom and eating pizza.

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This year though, I figured I would do something semi-productive and write a blog post for other single people, whether it be you are newly single, or you just don´t know how to handle the love around you.

As hard as it is, don´t avoid couples today, especially if they are your friends, this only makes you feel more upset and isolated from people. For so long I avoided my friends who were dating someone on Valentine´s day and it made the day suck even more.

Don´t listen to sad songs, no matter how much you are tempted too. Being single might not be fun, but it makes you look desperate, especially if you post all the sad songs on your Instagram hoping some cute guy will sweep you off your feet.

Appreciate all of the people you do have! It might seem small now, but your friends sending you cute texts and your mom getting you balloons are some sweet gestures to show you they love you! I used to always not care about the things my family and friends did for me because I was so caught up in the fact I was single, and now I look back and regret how ungrateful I looked.

And finally, enjoy the day! Make silly jokes about being single, wish your friends happy galentines day, watch some cheesy movies, wear pink, eat lots of chocolate, and have a wonderful day and enjoy the love in the world, even if it is just for one day.

 

Having an Identity

In high school, everyone has an identity.

You have your goths, your band kids, the cheerleaders, the jocks, the drama club, your hipsters.

Usually, everyone falls into a spot, I sure did.

Being with the cheerleaders didn´t make me the most popular kid, but for the most part, most people knew me because of the bow I wore in my hair. I felt like I belonged in my school.

Until suddenly I didn´t.

Junior year, I became more shy and quiet, I didn´t have my sport to fall back on as my identity, something that has defined me since 2012 was not there to help me anymore.

It became easy to just sit in the shadows.

People stopped saying hi to me in the halls, my grades slowly slipped,  my ¨friends¨ starting talking to me less and less, and I soon felt really alone. It felt like all the people that cared about me lived 100 miles away.

I went from being the loud, peppy, cheerleader to the quiet girl who is scared to speak in front of the class. I don´t even know if my teachers know my name.

I needed to learn sooner or later that I would not be known as the cheerleader after high school.

But honestly? This realization sucks.

I don´t know who I am, all I know is the cheerleader.

I grew up being the cheerleader, I grew up letting the stereotypes cheerleaders try so hard to let go of consume me; now I am stuck paying the price two years early.

I wish I could say that suddenly everything became really good, but I would be lying. I did start opening up to people, and I can confidently say I have the coolest friends in the world. But I still do not know who I am.

Some days, I can be super peppy and basically be a walking talking J-crew ad. I want to go into advertising or sports journalism and I drink hot tea. I actually have the motivation to do well in school.

Other days I stroll into school wearing a giant sweatshirt and leggings and just want to sit on my phone and watch Gossip Girl on Netflix.

But I guess that is what high school is all about, finding yourself, feeling lost, and just getting through this small patch of life, and I mean, who really needs an identity??

 

 

Ways to Help Your Skin

img_5720Hey everyone! I hope you all had a wonderful week! Since January is one of the colder months of the year, I thought that dropping some of my best skincare tips would help you guys out!

Side Note: I have combination skin, so I get dry spots on my chin, forehead, and cheeks, but my T-zone can be extremely oily at times. I breakout about once or twice a month due to stress/hormones, but normally I don´t get too many zits on my face. I do have extremely sensitive skin, so I can´t use anything harsh on my skin.

Moisturizing is key for your skin to look nice and soft year round. I feel like this is the step that a lot of people skip in their skincare routine because they don´t know that moisturizer is the key to hydrating your skin without looking oily! For Christmas, my mom got me the Ultra Repair Cream from First Aid Beauty and it has worked miracles on my skin. My dry patches have pretty much disappeared and it has also helped clear my eczema.

If I am ever trying a new product, which is something I avoid to not irritate my skin, I always ease my skin into the product. If it is a cleanser I use daily, I start using it once a week and slowly begin using it more and more. This helps my skin become more comfortable with products so I don´t instantly break out.

I know everyone says this, but drinking lots of water really improves your skin. It is the best way to remove harmful toxins from your skin. I always try and drink 4-5 20oz water bottles each day, and it has really helped clear my skin.

Most importantly, being consistent with your skincare is the best way to ensure improvements with your skin. You don´t need fancy products to see results, you just have to be willing to put in a little work to help your skin!

I hope you all enjoyed my tips! I tried to not recommend products since not everything will work on people, but instead give you guys some universal skincare tips that anyone with any skin type can use!

 

My New Years Resolutions

Hey everyone! I hope you are having a wonderful 2019 so far! Like most people, I have a list of resolutions and goals this year and I figured I would share my list! At the end of the year, I am going to repost the list and see what resolutions and goals that were a success and what failed.

  1. Wear clothes I like and make me feel confident even if it is not ¨trendy¨ or ¨cool¨ because the clothes I like are cool even if others do not think that.
  2. Post on here every Friday at 7! This one will be a challenge but I truly want to be more active.
  3. Get straight A´s second semester and make high honor roll.
  4. Keep my room clean and organized all year so I add more decor.
  5. Always have a positive mindset and outlook on everything, even when times get hard for me and others.
  6. Apply to college and get accepted to college. (Hopefully Mizzou!)
  7. Make more friends at cheer and outside of school to continue expanding my horizons with the people I know.
  8. Not be afraid to leave my comfort zone and try new things, no matter how much they scare me.
  9. Have an overall more healthy lifestyle this year, mentally, physically, and socially.

I hope you all enjoyed reading my goals and resolutions for 2019!

Getting ready for finals!

Hey guys! I am so sorry for the break on posts. Lately, I have been trying to focus on my health, my family, and school. With winter break coming up I will be posting more but I decided to give you guys a post! Since finals are probably the biggest things on everyone’s minds I decided to write some of my favorite things to do to get ready for them!

When the study guides and reviews start piling in, the first thing I like to do is put them all in a specific folder away from the rest of my stuff. That way, I am less likely to lose my review sheets or get them dirty!

Along with that, during the semester I try to save good youtube videos that can help me study for specific classes! John Green´s CrashCourses for US history helped me so much during APUSH. I also like to save up quizlets and other online resources to make my cramming go a lot smoother.

I also like to make a studying playlist so while I am cramming I have some nice calming music to listen to! I like to listen to bands/artists such as Vampire Weekend, Billie Ellish, Foster the People, and The Neighborhood. It helps me stay focused on my work with something light in the background to help keep me calm!

During my heavy duty study days, I like to take 10 minutes each night to do some sort of self-care, if it is doing a face mask or deep conditioning my hair, it really just helps me stay calm during my cram sessions.

Another thing I like to do is study outside of my house, if I just cram myself into my room I usually feel trapped and never seem to get anything done. This helps make it easier for me to study and get important things done.

Forming a study schedule is another great way to make your finals week go much smoother. I like to write out when I am studying, who I am studying with, and where I am studying. This also lets me see what gaps and breaks I have during the busy week.

Finally, I like to take a deep breath and know that whatever happens, I am going to be alright, while grades are important, and you should strive for good grades, they do not define who you are as a person. It is sometimes really hard to believe that, but it is the truth.

How To Survive Black Friday Shopping

Hello everyone! I hope you are having a wonderful Thanksgiving, surrounded by the people you love most. But today, I am not going to be talking about Thanksgiving, I am going to be talking about the day after, Black Friday.

Every year, My cousin, my mom and I always go Black Friday shopping together. This little tradition has been going on for 5 years, so I think I have figured out some of the ropes for Black Friday.

I hope you all enjoy these tips!

My first tip and probably my most important tip is to not start shopping until at least 1am.  I know that people say shopping at midnight is half the fun, but you will probably end up spending more times stuck in long lines. I also know a lot of people who will start their Black Friday shopping on Thanksgiving, and while you will probably not be tired, you are losing precious time with your family, so is the deal really even worth it then? I always go Black Friday shopping at 3-4 AM, so I can still get the good gift sets and deals, while still getting to spend time with family.

I also never go to the crazy stores, such as Target, Best Buy Ulta, or Walmart. Those stores are normally where everything crazy happens. If you really want one the deals they have, I would just go at a later date, because normally they restock in the morning and afternoon after the rush.

Even though you have probably eaten SO much food at Thanksgiving, I would definitely eat breakfast or at least get something into your stomach before shopping. The lines at the mall will probably take forever, and who wants to be stuck shopping on an empty stomach?

Since most people go Black Friday shopping to get Christmas gifts, I would definitely recommend planning out what you are getting for each person on your list. This is something I forget almost every year but this time I have a plan! It will honestly make your shopping trip 100 times easier so you do not have to waste any extra time.

Finally, I just wanted to say that you should be kind to every single worker you come in contact with. They have compromised their holiday to work and they deserve respect. If something does not go your way and they have tried to help you, do not take your anger out on them. They are probably just as tired as you, if not even more.

I hope you all have a safe and happy Thanksgiving and Black Friday! Hopefully, these tips can help make it easier.

Xoxo, Ava

 

 

 

 

 

Habits I Have: The Good and the Bad

Hello everyone! Today´s blog post is going to be a little bit different than my normal posts. I am going to be telling you guys some of the habits I have! Some of them are pretty good, but others might not be the best. Honestly, this entire post is going to be me calling myself out.

  1.  For some reason, whenever I am stressed out at school or while I am studying, I click my pencil. I don´t even realize I am going it most of the time, but it always bugs everyone around me. This is one of my bad habits and I have no idea how to stop doing it! The only thing that can stop me from clicking my pen is holding my hands together, but then I really can´t write because my hands, ya know, are holding each other.
  2. Whenever I get nervous, I always play with my hair. People always say that it is kinda cute, but I feel like it makes it obvious that I am nervous which makes me even more nervous. (You can probably see how this just keeps on going).
  3. This one is more of a superstition than a habit, but I ALWAYS have to knock on wood whenever I say something about cheer. If I tell my mom ¨I think my team is going to do really good tonight!¨ or ¨I think we can make these upgrades look really good.¨ We always freak out and start looking for something wood or if we need to we just knock on our heads.
  4.  For some reason, I always hurdle myself onto my bed. Might not seem like a big deal but I always manage to knock things over in the process.
  5. Another superstition I have is that for EVERY single competition I have, I must wear false lashes. If I forget to put them on at home or bring them to the competition I will go out, buy a pair, and put them on even if they do not fit my eyes before I compete without them. I know it might sound weird to be this superstitious, but it is something I just need to do.
  6. I am obsessed with drinking water, so I always have a water bottle on me. It is probably the best habit I have made sure I have, because I used to NEVER drink water, and of course hydration is important! So I set reminders and alarm clocks to remind me to drink water.

That is all I have today! I hope you all enjoyed reading about my weird habits!

Xoxo, Ava

One Year Blogiversary

One year ago TODAY I decided to create my blog. My first blog post was kinda messy (You can read it Here!) but it definitely helped me process all of my issues and the things that I was going through at that time, so I decided to keep it up.

At first, it was hard, I am not going to lie. I was so scared that people I know in real life would find my blog, so I barely EVER posted. I think in the first three months of my blog, I posted maybe twice.  I was so embarrassed that I thought this was even a good idea, I almost ended up deleting my blog.

I don´t know exactly what changed my mindset, but after a while, a switch seemed to flip. Soon, I could not seem to stop writing, I had so many ideas and I just wanted to get them all out into the world as fast as possible.

Ever since then, this blog has brought me so much happiness. I never had a place to put all of my creativity and thoughts. Now I have a way to process what is going on in my life, and even let me help someone who might be dealing with the same thing as me. I am so blessed to have an outlet like this, so many people do not have an outlet like this.

Going off of that, THANK YOU to the people who are willing to read my posts! If it was not for every single one of my readers, this blog would basically just be a really weird diary. Also, a special thank you to my family and friends who always read every single one of my posts, I know they might not be perfect, but whenever one of my friends text me about how much they loved my most recent post, I always get SO happy, especially if I was nervous about that post for whatever reason.

Along with my one-year blogiversary, there are soon going to be new changes to my blog overall! I have been working on some new ideas and I am SO EXCITED to share them all with you guys!

So again, thank you all for coming along with me on this little journey, and I cannot wait to see what the future brings for me and this blog.

XOXO, Ava

 

 

 

The things that make me happiest

Hello everyone! Going off of my last post, I decided to make a blog post about all of the things that make me happy. I am using this as a reminder to myself about all these WONDERFUL things I am blessed to have in my life.

  1. My lovely mom and dad. They are the most supportive people in my life. No matter what my path may be, I know they will be rallying behind me. I might be the cheerleader in the family, but they are the cheerleaders of my life.
  2.  My crazy little kitty Rory! I know most people love their pets, but Rory has positively influenced my life in so many ways. She is the reason I actually take care of myself, because I know I have to take care of her as well.
  3. My spider plant Nico, I know plants are a weird thing to consider a blessing, but my plant makes me smile every single morning, I always see it right when I wake up and I just use it as motivation to get out of bed.
  4. My really AWESOME stingers! The season is sadly over, but my little stingers are the sunshine of my life! These little girls are just balls of happiness and the amount of joy I have for being one of their mentors is priceless. I still think about those girls every single day, and I cannot wait for my last year of coaching, even though I will be heartbroken once it is over.
  5. Coffee, something so simple can bring a smile to my face with one single sip, I honestly drink so much coffee but I love it.
  6. Cheer, despite all the hard stuff, the sport has changed my life. I joined cheer as a weird 10-year-old and it has completely transformed me. I have no idea what is going to happen once I go to college cause cheerleading is such a big part of my identity.
  7. All of my friends, I have changed a lot in the past year, and along with that my friends have changed as well, the people in my life are amazing and are always so good to me and put up with my crazy.

That is all I have today! I have been feeling very happy lately and hope you all enjoyed it seeping into this blog post, cause it’s almost too sweet, but that is okay cause I am just trying to show myself that despite how upset I might get about things, I really do live a good life with good people.

Xoxo, Ava